5 Tips to Survive Valentine’s Day After Divorce

Valentine's Day is upon us and grocery aisles are filled with pink and red candy hearts, your kids need cards for their class and you've been asked to contribute to the class gift for your child's teacher.  All you can do is sigh, put on a smile and pretend this Valentine's Day isn't any more difficult than any other year.

At VEER we know different.  The first Valentine's Day after a separation or divorce from your partner can be feel lonely and a reminder of your former life.  We have a few tips to help you through the lead up to February 14 and what to do survive the day.

First and foremost, check in with yourself.

How's your mental state?  Are you feeling the loss?  Try not to put yourself in situations where you will feel increased grief and pain.  Save yourself a trip to the candy aisle until after Feb. 14th when the pastel colored candy appears.  Make sure you have an agenda for yourself leading up the holiday.  Plan to exercise,  have coffee or a meal with a friend.  It's a great day to declutter or organize your office.  Do something for others.  Volunteer work is always good for the soul.

Be sure to stay off of social media.

You don't need reminders of the flowers, chocolates and wine your friends are receiving.  It is not the day to stalk your ex to see what he or she is up to today.

Remember why you're separated or divorced

It's subtle but a good reminder that your relationship was challenging.  With time, the healing gets easier and you'll design your lifestyle with new confidence in your choices.

Don't forget your children

Focus on your kids.  Allow them to enjoy any school or social activities they may plan. You can celebrate the love you have for them, your friends and family.  Demonstrate that love is love--not just romantic love.  Share part of the day with them and show them how much you care.

Phone a friend

Don't suffer alone or in silence.  Reach out to your support network.  Contact your divorce consultant at VEER and share how you're feeling.  You can take the initiative and host people for a happy hour, zoom or dinner.  Just make sure everyone on the invite list has your best interests at heart.

Need more than our 5 Tips to Survive Valentine's Day following Your Divorce?  Be sure to check our our other Divorce Resources and the article this post is based on from Divorce Magazine.

 

 

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